confusing communities
Reflecting on three communities 'get-togethers' which I was part of this year end. One was a bestowed one, the one you are born or married into, (family) the other by by chance and later earned, (your alumni) and third by choice. (a mission and ministry) All three have some commonalities - you are accepted as you are in all three, though in one there might questions on whether one could have done better, other don't understand what one is upto, the third one - well understood. But all groups generally show good acceptability and tolerance! Community always need a common frame work as foundation. Strength of foundation is linked to how deep the bonds are. How are bonds built and strengthened? Some are bestowed, part of the strong culture of similar communities from where the senior generation has come from and that expectation leads to all aligning in. But even this needs to be worked on for a deeper bonding. Others loosely bonded, but has the opportunity to be built into