Sunday, April 22, 2012

Making shopping for clothes a spiritual experience (for men who do not enjoy the same)

An old write up - written during the holidays...but did not have the courage to post it...!!

Accompanying your spouse to shop for clothes could be a tiring and burdensome activity for some. There are those rare men who enjoy this, so thank God if you are one of them. But if you are one, who does not detest shopping but consider as a necessary submission as part of the married life, you need to go though, is it possible to change it an enriching experience? I believe so.

Four steps to make it such an experience.

As you enter, observe, Celebrate and enjoy the creativity of God, the colours he has created, the beauty of creation, the variety of people. Celebrate the image of God, in us humans, evident through the ability to create dresses and various colours.

As your wife tries various dresses, Reflect on the imperfection we carry in our lives due to fall. Reflect on ways humans try to recapture the lost perfection by trying to create a near perfect image through external adornings and dresses. Praise God for the ability God has given to us to create this near perfect image. Praise God that there will be a day when we will no longer be nearly perfect but fully perfect internally and externally. Enjoy the near perfection of your spouse and the perfection she has in Christ.

As you move around in the shops, Thank God for opportunity God has given us to serve our spouse. Thank God for the many ways she has served you. Thank God for the shops, the people who serve us, and help us to select clothes and give their expert advise.

As the bill comes to you, use this as an opportunity to thank God for the resources he give. Also reflect on how you manage Gods resources which he has given to you. Say a prayer for many who do not have these resources.

And as you get out thank God for the opportunity he has given you to serve and pray for more such opportunities.

Try this once, you will enjoy every trip now onwards! 

Lost focus

My last blog was almost 4 and half months back. I have been sitting and thinking, why has I "postponed" or "procrastinated" this for such a long time. Well the question was - did I "procrastinate" or "postpone"...


In psychology, procrastination refers to the act of replacing high-priority actions with tasks of lower priority, or doing something from which one derives enjoyment, and thus putting off important tasks to a later time.  (Wikipedia)

Postponement is a business strategy that maximizes possible benefit and minimizes risk by delaying further investment into a product or service until the last possible moment.  (Wikipedia)

Was it because "blogging" was "low priority" or I found something "more enjoyable" that blogging could be easily put off? Or was this strategic delay for a perceived "right time"....?

Both seems to be farfetched.....the fact was that blogging went off the horizon, because clouds of "urgent" and "critical" took the focus off from the "enjoyable" and "important"....

This challenge seems to be built into our physical and emotional systems....

Look at "post-postprandial somnolence" - food in stomach, redistributes blood supply to stomach and there is a relative hypo-perfusion" to brain leading to "somnolence". That is why we sleep off after meals...! A reactive response to a perceived need...

Pain pathways are made in such a way that when a stronger or different pain impulse comes in the weaker or different is subdued - this is the principle of local applications with Capsicoids and soothing agents - a new and different impulse over rides the existing ones...used much by Pharma industries to develop many topical applications....A proactive utilization of body systems for symptom relief....but (root issues may not be addressed)...

Emotional - one crises is enough for us to lose the joy of the many blessings which was have enjoyed over years...One laugh is enough to help us to forget the pain which we are facing - at least momentarily - may not be for long term...

But spiritual? - Bible says - in adjacent verses -  The Spirit left Saul...the  Spirit  came down on David....the Spirit indwells in us....but why is that when we are emotionally down we feel as if the Spirit has left...

Patterns like these built into our systems bring up an interesting issue - why are these built in - are they "protective" for "reactive"  and "reflex" mediated preservation or are they to be "pro-actively managed" for the greater “purposes”....of what I am made for...and called for....

The natural tendency to lose focus has to be pro-actively managed by capturing a "glimpse of horizon" between the gaps in the clouds....which are always there, if one looks for the same.... refocusing our eyes on the facts which do not change though the feelings do change...

I heard an senior leader saying this last week - I might lose my eye sight but I will not lose my vision......

Stations on the Road to Freedom

Dietrich Bonhoeffer(1906-1945) Discipline If you set out to seek freedom, then learn above all things to govern your soul and your sense...